circling – One Step At A Time

There is a space in between and all that happens there, that may seem as a bridge or a gap. It felt until now as if I have to choose between being with my self or with others and that has felt as a gap.

How do we occupy this space when we are with self and others?

Whatever I feel in each moment, there is the space for that to be felt ! So from now and on I am shifting my attention to that space. The space that everything occurs.. And there are many practices to remind us that. In individual like mindfulness meditation or in a group. Like circling and authentic relating.

So I would like to remind you to pay attention to that space.

A beautifully opening space, where all the magic happens, just in between, where two or more people meet, in circling, authentic relating, Non Violent Communication, Radical Honesty or empathy cafe. What are these?

These are modalities, that have been designed to facilitate open heart connections, and expressing our needs in a safe space. A space where everything is welcome, in loving awareness, relaxing the predefined and conditioned ways that most of us have been raised with, that have been based on fear and inequality.

So how is your space today? What do you notice in your body?

me avoiding connection as something “dangerous”, realizing I can trust and let go or simply taking my space and time and connect when i feel ready

“In this space everything is welcome” The facilitator said while opening the space, virtual this time, for an evening of authentic relating and circling. And I hold this within myself to remind me, everytime the judge would pop up to obstruct the need for connection and self expression.

Commitment to connection
Staying with Sensations
Any evergy is welcome
Being with the other in their world
Owning your experience

are the five prinsiples of authentic relating. These principles are creating a space where each one is responsible and retrain themselves to exist with others and be there for everything that arises. It is actually a group meditation, while staying in a social context and being present with others and everything that comes up. A way of being with others and oneself, that is more inclusive and whole and you can take with to the other parts of your life as well.

me running away from feeling or taking up the challenge to ride wave of connection

It came up to talk about connection and how our society wants us to be independent and see the need for connection as something to be ashamed off, so we reclaimed that need and there was space for expressing and feeling those sensations associated with it. Also grief and sadness, excitement and joy. There was beautiful mirroring and understanding and vulnerability as well as insights and breakthroughs when one of the people there said, “I hear you say with the emotional part and with the logical part, and the judge, whoever that was that judged you, but I am more interested to hear what you would like to say, how that feels for you ? ”

The fear that I might be percieved as too needy while expressing my need
for connection was also there

This practice is about noticing sensations and retraining awareness, to come more into the body and the present moment and recenter oneself and connect from there. Noticing body sensation helps to be more authentic, and create authentic connections.

I have tried these practices years ago and there was a significant time of other inner work in between, so I come back to them now, and I can see the impact. I also found myself to watch again the video of Marshal Rosenberg, the founder of Non Violent Communication, and I found myself understanding more and also coming to tears from the simplicity of the method, that there is a language that can communicate more clear and the posibility through that communication, to have ones needs being met.

As I hear him speak the things I was not able to express I feel a space opening within me.

The fear of self expression has been with me for such a long time. I often find myself feeling some tension and fear to express myself, my needs, or having thoughts that I might be misunderstood, and not heard. So having tools like this makes connection possible and I am feeling grateful that there is a welcoming and accepting space, where I can express and take time to understand, reflect, feel and then communicate in equal terms with other beings that are there with me. So I’m sharing here with you all the nice tools to create a space we can all be heard and resonate with integrity and love.